But sometimes I can't help but think to the past and where I was a year ago. Last year in July and August I was on a totally different adventure for work - monitoring hundreds of thousands of shorebirds on migration. My team and I were living in the wilderness of Northern Ontario in a shack on the coast of James Bay, a 100 km helicopter ride north of even the smallest First Nation community that could still be considered a town, with no possible means of contact with the outside world.
It was great, except for the fact that my life had just been shattered. A few days before I left, the love of my life had just informed me that he didn't really feel the same way, and then sent me off to the wilderness to stew on that new info for over a month. Needless to say that was pretty much the worst thing that ever happened. So even though we did get back together for several months, things were obviously never the same. When we finally ended things in March, I was devastated to lose my true love and best friend and partner in all things fun. My once certain path into the future dissolved away into an imaginary alternate universe, and I began on a pathway into my new reality... with a sense that maybe, just maybe, there was something else out there meant for me.
Obviously going on an epic trip around the world is the best way to get over someone. I hope I can work that into my schedule for any future breakups haha! There is really no time to think about your ex when you are spotting elephants, lions and cheetahs in Kruger National Park, trying desperately to get a sick penguin to please eat just one more fish, or drinking caña on the Galapagos beach with your new friends from all over the world while the sea lions howl in the background. But whenever times have been quiet, I do think about what happened and what I've learned.
The main thing I have learned is to be honest. Be who you are, and be it proudly. The right person will love you for exactly who you are without all the bullshit and lies. And if you feel you have to lie and bullshit to someone to make them like you, or to live up to their expectations, then it isn't going to work. I'd like to think I'm pretty good at this part- being me is my specialty ;).
The second thing I've learned is that communication is everything. So cliche, but so true. You have to actually tell the other person what you're thinking and feeling in order to work through any issues and find compromise and balance. It seems easy, but actually can be really hard. I know I kinda suck at this, because I like to have fun always and not deal with problems. But sometimes you have to suck it up and deal with shit.
So I guess this is my way of letting it all go, getting closure and moving on. I see myself staying single for a while, although I know one or two guys who might be able to change my mind on that... but I want to make sure I remember these lessons for the future. Hopefully my real true love is still out there somewhere, also dreaming of an amazing adventure filled life where we travel the world, try to make a positive impact on this planet, and have lots of sex and babies! Haha :)
But until I find him, just wait until you see what I have planned for the next 6 months....
I'm just a lonely sea turtle waiting for my sea lion bff in this life |